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Jordin explains why fingering, or manual stimulation, works better for female arousal than the rushed, checkbox sex many women endure today. The female pleasure and arousal cycle requires slowness, buildup, and emotional tuning; this is not jackhammering toward orgasm.
They say sex is like pizza: When it’s bad, it’s still good. But we beg to differ, especially when it comes to sex with your hands. For the most part, dry, fast, and furious fingering does not feel pleasant. But wet, built-up, and conscious use of hands on pussy? Oh yeah.
If you’re new to this type of sex, it’s important to choose partners that are understanding and supportive of your hand . Be honest that this is new to you to create an atmosphere of communication and understanding. And no matter how many times you’ve done this, it’s still important to replicate this environment with each new partner (like we said, everyone’s different). That said, it’s also helpful to establish a baseline of fingering skills. So here are nine tips on how to finger someone in a pleasurable manner.
Fingering, like any sexual activity, should always have clear and ongoing consent. Everyone has different likes and dislikes when it comes to sex, so while some people may enjoy fingering, others may not. The most important thing is that both you and your partner should feel comfortable and enjoy the experience. Talk openly about what feels good and what doesn’t — either by having a conversation beforehand or by checking in during sex. Remember that you can always ask your partner to stop at any time if you change your mind.
Fingering can be a fun and pleasurable way to explore sex and intimacy, whether as foreplay or the main event. To make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable, start slow, use lube, and keep your nails trimmed. The key to making sure both you and your partner enjoy it is open communication — talk about what feels good and what doesn’t. While fingering is generally a low-risk sexual activity, it’s still important to practice good hygiene by washing your hands beforehand and using barriers such as finger condoms or gloves to help prevent infections.
