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“Hotwifing is about being turned on by seeing your partner being perceived as sexy and desirable by others, while cuckolding is about you being perceived as weak, unworthy, or less-than your partner and the person they’re having sex with,” she explains. “In hotwifing, you’re elevating the hot wife while in cuckolding, you’re lowering the cuck.”
The term is a bit more mainstream, but first let’s talk about as its emerging in popularity. A “hot wife” usually refers to a (typically) female partner who engages in intimate encounters or relationships with others outside the primary relationship. A hot wife can be a partner of any gender and can be implemented in relationships despite the gender makeup. The concept of the hot wife plays into the fantasy that one’s wife is so desirable that other men are dying to be with her and the partner with the hot wife fantasy enjoys the knowing or watching their partner be intimate with others.
One reason people enjoy hot wife and cuckold kinks is due to experiencing feelings of . For some, jealousy is not something felt often in romantic relationships; instead, they more so feel what is called compersion or a feeling of joy in knowing a partner is happy connecting (sexually, romantically, etc.) with others.
Others like the submission aspect of these . Hot wife and cuckold kinks do offer a sense of a person submitting to another in the form of consenting to their partner to be intimate with others and being a part of that experience.
O’Reilly’s theory as to why we don’t often hear about hot husbands is that “we live in a culture that values women for being physically attractive (usually according to specific patriarchal Eurocentric standards),” she explains. “Masculinity is tied to resources, and women are often treated as a resource. It follows that it can be affirming for men to know that their wife or partner is attractive to others. That’s not to say that those who enjoy hotwifing are doing it only for affirmation or to reinforce masculinity. And I certainly would not suggest that men who enjoy hot-wifing universally see their partners as a resource—many of these relationships are rooted in mutual care, love and respect; gender roles are deeply ingrained in our culture.”
